tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4580382827478510871.post4811145937933669427..comments2023-11-03T06:28:07.108-07:00Comments on Best When Used By: Alternating Joy and FrustrationBest When Used Byhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17252417951291793892noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4580382827478510871.post-73577125662180023592010-02-27T12:38:15.496-08:002010-02-27T12:38:15.496-08:00You looks awesome and the baby stuff is so cute. I...You looks awesome and the baby stuff is so cute. I don't know what I can add about your mom. It sounds like a catch 22 situation. <br />I really feel for you big time. <br />I hope you can have the strength to do what is best for you! And tell DH to get with the program. You can't procrastinate with a hungry baby around - ESP<br />when it's time to change the diaper!<br />Hugs! Hope you can get through this and hang onto the joyfull moments!!tireegal68https://www.blogger.com/profile/13943003575298698264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4580382827478510871.post-61338776804704429242010-02-27T11:37:16.461-08:002010-02-27T11:37:16.461-08:00Part of me wants to tell you to gentley tell your ...Part of me wants to tell you to gentley tell your mother to back off a bit and explain to her that you are trying to have peaceful days leading up to baby coming. The other part understands that you are at the point of picking your battles and it may not be worth even bringing it up - not knowing what the backlash will be -or knowing exactly what the backlash will be. I wish she would just think about what she is saying before it comes out. You are the only person that knows what you can and can't say to your mom. Just remember to keep breathing and smiling- think baby :) I'm praying you have some peaceful days ahead, no matter hwo you get it. I love your shower gifts- so many clothes! I'm glad you have 6 months off- me too! We can dread going back to work together... I already am :(Bowers Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00116823979378728638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4580382827478510871.post-55910352244907312892010-02-27T10:11:34.460-08:002010-02-27T10:11:34.460-08:00Your plate is definitely FULL dear! Praying it all...Your plate is definitely FULL dear! Praying it all chills out and mom gets settled in without too much stress! You got LOTS of nice gifts huh? what a blessing!embieadoptmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00704065632782220134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4580382827478510871.post-55199914977201423842010-02-27T09:22:03.567-08:002010-02-27T09:22:03.567-08:00you're not being selfish at all. its the other...you're not being selfish at all. its the other way around! so sorry you have these folks not being supportive tho. <br />wish there was a way to help out!! <br /><br />I think you look amazing by the way. Radiant! and yes, BWUB baby belly looks much bigger than the last photo. Lovely!!<br /><br />Thinking of you <br />EbEbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06674801997007886433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4580382827478510871.post-66433003566818130312010-02-27T01:37:03.261-08:002010-02-27T01:37:03.261-08:00Petal, your priorities must be different. Do tell ...Petal, your priorities must be different. Do tell your mom that you cannot handle her frustration. You are having a baby my friend, how can you possibly NOT be your number one priority? I'm sorry sweetie, I don't mean to upset you, but between Wacky P, your MIL and your Mom I'm afraid you are really going to suffer (even if only with stress) and I wish you didn't. Sending you love and counting the days together with you. FranFranhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05717020378275616297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4580382827478510871.post-45484994212064529482010-02-27T00:55:19.029-08:002010-02-27T00:55:19.029-08:00Well, you're a more tolerant person than I am,...Well, you're a more tolerant person than I am, that's for sure. If my mom even mentioned moving here I would have a nervous breakdown.<br /><br />I like what MMM said about establishing a new relationship with this move. All the changes give you a chance to recreate the dynamic, to let her move into the grandma role and to set some rules about all the negativity.<br /><br />It sounds like the six months before you go back to work need to be about establishing some kind of structure for your mother's life - otherwise, the structure is going to be you. And that doesn't seem like the best idea.<br /><br />Less than two weeks! Wow!!!Lorrainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04180034761243431694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4580382827478510871.post-71637410775957392432010-02-26T19:26:27.657-08:002010-02-26T19:26:27.657-08:00You look great and those are some sweet baby thing...You look great and those are some sweet baby things you've got there!<br /><br />Sorry that you aren't able to relax and enjoy your last few days of pregnancy. I agree that you should be able to just anticipate and nest these last few days. I don't think that putting your foot down is selfish or mean at all.cindyhoo2https://www.blogger.com/profile/00270674009271182588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4580382827478510871.post-63720120818637005462010-02-26T19:15:28.365-08:002010-02-26T19:15:28.365-08:00Aw, sweetie, I'm so sorry your mother is drain...Aw, sweetie, I'm so sorry your mother is draining you so. (I totally get the DH stuff, too - I have my suspended license to prove it, but the mother thing is worse...I can relate!) Gosh, it's so hard to be the only one a parent can rely on emotionally - I have been there, and it's a terrible and somewhat unnatural responsibility. How to balance the support she needs with the R&R you need? Why doesn't DH spend a day or two taking her around and showing her houses? For the sake of Mommy and Baby, I think it is the least he can do.<br /><br />I adore all your pics (especially the one of you!). I swear I can smell that sweet baby smell by just looking at that closet of darling clothes! <br /><br />Thinking of you and sending you lots of hugs and support.<br /><br />Love,<br />MaddyMad Hatterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08262994711680542891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4580382827478510871.post-13877668290651421142010-02-26T18:30:17.237-08:002010-02-26T18:30:17.237-08:00Your mommy sounds tough!
Have you watched the mo...Your mommy sounds tough! <br /><br />Have you watched the movie knoccked up? If not, you should. I love watching it because of the sister dynamic. I love how the outlook of the characters shows how attitude changes everything- when the characters are down, they just get dragged down. When they think positive, they can build each other up, and find ways to overcome. <br /><br />When baby gets here, your mom is just gonna be so happy that she will be all baby, all the time. If she isnt, set some rules: limit negative talk, try to steer the chat into "ok, so how do we solve the problem..." or just use the baby as an excuse to leave. <br /><br />You mentioned she didnt have many hobbies and whatnot- maybe you could nip over to the community centers in her area when you do know where in town she'll be moving, and figure out a few things she might like to try- or suggest EVERYTHING- knitting 'stitch and bitch' evenings at the craft store, volunteer opportunities with some kind of non prof- anything... sometimes people complain about themselves because they don't realize they're bored... <br /><br />Pics were awesome, Im excited for you!Alex Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01650374437805542543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4580382827478510871.post-14404380887350354562010-02-26T16:58:15.136-08:002010-02-26T16:58:15.136-08:00I agree with everyone else...put yourself first.
...I agree with everyone else...put yourself first. <br />The first several weeks with a newborn are really challenging and you'll appreciate being as well rested and un-stressed as possible until that kicks in. It really will help with your recovery...especially since you are a c-section. I had one with my first son and am scheduled for one with my next son...and it just takes a little longer to bounce back from the surgery since you are doing all the 'mom' stuff rather than simply recovering.<br /><br />GO grab a nap. And when you wake up...do what you want. Whenever you want a nap, go get another one. You have worked really hard and deserve this downtime. <br /><br />Please don't let your mom take from that. Remember she is a grown-up and can handle whatever happens her way while you need this time for yourself...and your baby.<br /><br />Be well in these final days and just be!!!tootertotzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11958341199715354427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4580382827478510871.post-49455967531615217432010-02-26T15:40:31.498-08:002010-02-26T15:40:31.498-08:00You look amazing. I can't believe you are just...You look amazing. I can't believe you are just weeks away from meeting baby! So exciting.<br /><br />You are absolutely NOT the person your mom should be venting to. If she needs to vent she should get a therapist, perhaps you can recommend on for her? hahaha! I'm betting that wouldn't go over well. But be aware that as she moves close you are setting up the structure of the "new" relationship now - so don't let her spew negativity all over your budding family now, it will only continue.<br /><br /><br />Best of luck hon. I hope things work out with mom!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4580382827478510871.post-37959885211747930832010-02-26T13:34:21.480-08:002010-02-26T13:34:21.480-08:00awwww!! the baby clothes are so adorable! you look...awwww!! the baby clothes are so adorable! you look fantastic! im glad to hear you are able to enjoy some of these last special moments of pregnancy. i cant believe you are so close!! <br /><br />mothers are stressful (i often wonder how long it will be until i stress/annoy my own daugther!) take care of yourself and dont hestiate to put yourself first. if you've ever been entitled to do so, its now!anofferingoflovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14787985680863798995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4580382827478510871.post-23638916521526123862010-02-26T12:55:25.252-08:002010-02-26T12:55:25.252-08:00That's really too bad that your mom is drainin...That's really too bad that your mom is draining you so much. The last 2 weeks of pregnancy is tiring enough!! I hope you are able to find a way to enjoy yourself - now, and in the future with your mom living closeby once the baby is born!<br /><br />Love the baby stuff, especially the closet, look at all the clothes baby boy will have! Must be fun to look at all of it.<br /><br />But as I read through the highs and the lows, the highs definitely seem to be winning, so enjoy them as best you can!stillhopefulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07252497820828285577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4580382827478510871.post-73340065790662279812010-02-26T12:46:20.091-08:002010-02-26T12:46:20.091-08:00It's NOT selfish to take care of yourself and ...It's NOT selfish to take care of yourself and baby boy! Seriously, you are 1000x more patient with your mom than I could ever be. I would constantly be thinking of ways to duck her callsat this point. As for her staying with you next week, don't let her bully you into anything! You took leave this early to relax and get things set up, you can support her without needing to be physically present with her on everything.<br /><br />I'm glad your colleagues were great about your send-off and that you don't have to worry about work for SIX months! Yippee!<br /><br />Now if only I could tell that hubby of yours to get off his ass and files those taxes. He's certainly not going to have any extra time come a few weeks, NOW is the time to do it! Cmon DH, get with it!Finn's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11981940225352570716noreply@blogger.com